Why I Didn't Choose You

You may think of Me as the one doing the choosing.
And you’d be right.
But what you may not realise is that I’m watching before we even meet.

Your first message? Your application form? Your online presence?
That is your first impression. And if it reads sloppy, entitled, or downright strange… I quietly step away.

I don’t chase. I curate.
And if you're wondering why you didn’t get a reply - this is your mirror.

You’re Not Reading, You’re Consuming
You skim, you assume, you jump straight to the “fun bits.”
You skip over protocol and land in My inbox like I owe you something.

But I’m not your Google search result. I’m not here to be unwrapped and devoured. I’m here to be studied, approached, and earned.

Red Flag Phrases:
“Hi babe.”
“Can I ask a quick question?”
“I didn’t see your form so I’m messaging here instead.”
“You free tonight?”

No. No, I’m not.

Your Booking Message Reads Like a Dare
You sound performative, mocking, or overcompensating. Like you’re more interested in proving something than in being present.
If your message sounds like a challenge or a neg, I don’t hear bravery - I hear insecurity.

Red Flag Behaviours:
Bragging about your experience with “real Dommes.”

Offering to “train Me” or “test My limits.”

Suggesting “a real Man” wouldn’t need to submit.

Making jokes at the expense of My profession or protocols.

Demanding edge play on a first session, then disappearing when I request screening.

Domination isn't a game to Me. If you're looking for a performance, swipe elsewhere.
This is theatre of the soul, not of ego.

You Move Too Fast—Or Too Weird
Enthusiasm is welcome. But obsession? Fixation? Sending three emails within an hour, tracking Me across platforms, or calling Me pet names before we’ve even spoken?

It doesn’t make Me feel desired. It makes Me feel watched. And I don’t reward that kind of desperation.

Likewise, sending one-liners with no context, links to obscure fetlife profiles, or 20-paragraph manifestos outlining your kinks and trauma history? That’s not transparency. That’s a trauma dump disguised as submission.

Soft No: You overshare too soon, asking Me to hold parts of you I haven’t consented to cradle.
Hard No: You don’t understand the difference between visibility and vulnerability.

You’re Rude to Me or My Form
Yes, even rudeness wrapped in banter.
If you mock My form, laugh at the questions, or make it sound like you’re “tolerating” the screening process - go.
I’m not your admin. I’m your mirror. And if your dominant can’t hold standards, what exactly are you submitting to?
You don’t have to agree with every boundary I set. But if you roll your eyes at the container, it tells Me you won’t respect the content.

Applied, But Got No Response?
Here are some very real reasons why I left your message unread or archived it without reply:

• You messaged Me on social media instead of using My site.
  I left that channel open for art and marketing—not for poorly timed desperation.

• Your message had no name, no intro, no context.
  If you speak to Me like I’m a bot, I’ll treat your message like spam.

• Your email was bossy, presumptuous, or sexually explicit.
  My booking form isn’t a fantasy chatroom. It’s a sacred threshold. Act accordingly.

• You made My screening process sound like an inconvenience.
  If you can’t follow instructions during booking, you’re not going to follow them in session.

• You used vague or suspicious language.
  “Just looking for fun.” “Discreet meet?” “Can’t share ID but I’m respectful.”
  That tells Me everything I need to know—and none of it is good.

• You tried to guilt-trip, flatter, or rush Me.
  “I’m desperate for this.” “You’d be lucky to session with me.” “Can you just make an exception?”
  I could - but I won’t.
  

This is not to scare you. It is to Prepare you.

Because I want you to succeed.
I want your devotion. I want to guide your transformation. I want to bring you closer.

But closeness is earned. Not demanded. And certainly not faked.

So if you didn’t hear back from Me, this might be your moment.
Not to beg—but to reflect.

What did you send?

What did it say about how you see Me… and yourself?

Because a good submissive doesn’t just want to be taken.
They want to be worthy of being chosen.