Vet Before You Submit

Let’s stop playing pretend. You weren’t “scammed.” You were impatient. You were horny.

Many men don’t want to admit that they made a decision with their cock instead of their brain - so they cry “fake” to avoid taking responsibility. Meanwhile, the Dominants who do put in the time, effort, and legal risk to build this work? We’re the ones paying for your mistakes.

Here’s the truth: scammers exist, yes. But they thrive because of laziness. Because too many clients ignore their gut, rush in without verifying, or assume they’re entitled to proof beyond what’s already been publicly offered.

You don’t need more proof. You need more discernment.
And this guide will show you how to sharpen it - for your sake and ours.

Scammers Steal From Real Dommes - and You Help Them When You Don’t Check

Do you know how easy it is to copy and paste a Domme’s photos and slap a new name on top?

That’s what scammers do. They lift content, bios, and branding from reputable professionals — Women who have worked for years to build a reputation - and use them to bait men who don’t vet their sources.

And when you fall for it, we’re the ones who get dragged into the fallout. Our photos get reported. Our websites get questioned. Our reputation takes a hit because you were too horny to do a two-minute reverse image search, or a further 10 minute search.

Your laziness can harm my livelihood.
And frankly, that’s not submissive. That’s selfish.

Here’s How to Avoid Being Scammed — and Being the Problem

Look For Her Digital Footprint

A Professional Dominatrix has a presence. She has something to say. She exists across platforms and has taken steps to establish herself, even if she remains anonymous.

If you can’t find her on anything except a Telegram channel or some untagged selfies in a group chat? That’s not mystery. That’s avoidance.

Real Dominants invest in their visibility. Even the most discreet ones have a place to land - a website, a directory listing, a content hub. Something.

Ask yourself: why would someone legitimate not have that?

Reputation Means Affiliation

We don’t work in isolation. Most Dominants are part of wider networks:

• We collaborate with other providers.

• We show up at verified kink spaces.

• We’re referenced or praised by others.

• We support each other’s platforms and policies.

If the Domme you’re looking at seems entirely disconnected from the community, why? Why would she have no mutuals, no affiliations, and no one vouching for her? Why would she appear out of nowhere, demand a tribute, and vanish?

Because she isn’t real. You’re reacting to an aesthetic, not a practitioner.

Beware of Bargain Kinks

This isn’t about shaming providers with accessible rates. It’s about context.

If she’s charging pennies for high-risk sessions, won’t share her platform credentials, and sends you to CashApp before you even talk about limits - that’s not Domination. That’s bait.

If she doesn’t have a website, can you find her on clip sites or content platforms that require verification?
If not - ask. Politely. “May I ask if you're verified on any other platforms?” or "Can I get your clip sites link, please?"
If she can’t answer, that’s your sign.
Not mine. Yours.

Real Talk: Why Are You Reaching Out?

This is where it gets personal. Ask yourself:

• Am I interested in this Dominatrix because of her ethics and craft — or because of her body and price?

• Am I responding to her fantasy, or to the integrity of her offering?

• Am I looking to truly serve — or am I looking for a shortcut to being used?

If all you want is to be verbally degraded by a hot stranger, that’s fine. But don’t call it submission. And don’t blame anyone else when the fantasy turns into a scam.

And Finally: A Word on Me

Yes, I am anonymous.
But I’m also consistent.
I’ve been ID-verified. I’ve completed platform onboarding. I’ve invested in a website. I’ve done the work to be findable — safely, discreetly, and legally.

I don’t offer additional verification to satisfy your nerves. If the digital footprint I’ve built isn’t enough, then this is not the right match.

Submission starts with discernment.
If you can’t vet properly, you’re not ready to serve.